Among all emotions, love, perhaps, is the most mysterious one.
It can heal and crush, make your mind clear and cloud it with anxiety, bring meaning to your life and take the meaning away.
And it’s rarely “either-or”. Love relationships end and the end brings depression and disappointment.
Is love meant to bring emotional distress to our lives? Or do we simply misunderstand it?
When talking about love as an emotion we often tend to view it as a one-person thing, focusing on one’s feelings of affection and attachment. …
You probably know what it feels like to be bored.
It’s a very bad feeling.
Boredom is a complex phenomenon and as such it has been a subject of scientific research.
Some psychologists believe that boredom is a mild form of disgust. And disgust is a mild form of hatred, and so it goes. You got the idea.
Boredom is omnipresent. It can hit you at home, at work, in the cinema, on your way to a lecture (sometimes in a middle of a lecture), or during a train ride. We learn to live with boredom, as well as learn…
Happiness is a complex thing. First of all, it isn’t easy to define. Second of all, even if we agree on the definition, it won’t miraculously bring us to understanding what is needed to become happy. There are just too many elements at play: the place you were born, people you grew up with, the social and economic situation in your country, as well as many other factors.
At the same time, psychologists studying happiness notice certain patterns in how people act and think and how happy they are. …
Writers of the past didn’t have much choice when it came to the selection of writing tools. Of course, they could choose a typewriter brand, paper quality, or notebook type, but as far as the writing process was concerned, that was pretty much it. Computers were not there yet, so no word processors or fancy magic tools could be of any help. …
Many people hearing the word-combination “ancient monk” imagine someone with an expressionless face, shoulder depression, and a bald patch — an image learned from ancient paintings.
These paintings, of course, are only a representation and don’t portray real people.
Moreover, the pictures don’t capture the less known part of these monks’ spiritual lives. Many of them left a rich writing legacy that reflected their daily thoughts, struggle, and love for God.
Although their writing is only the tip of an iceberg, it provides a glimpse into the hearts of one of the most spiritual people in the entire history.
Even if you’re not fond of martial arts, you probably heard of Aikido. This exotic Japanese martial art became popular in the West around the 1970s, thanks to Steven Seagal, an actor, and a teacher in the past, who is also famous for receiving a Russian passport from the hands of Putin… Yeah, okay, I guess this doesn’t add to his popularity.
Anyway, this post is not about Seagal. It’s not even about the Aikido from the viewpoint of martial arts (which has quite an ambivalent reputation among fighters, to start with).
This post is about one Aikido trick that…
Look, my friend, the summer is almost gone.
I’ve walked miles of coastline searching through
warm sand for time and now must disappoint
you — the ocean devoured it. How much is left,
you ask. Well, read my lips: “None.” Funny, huh?
Ten years ago, I would laugh at this. Make stupid jokes.
Guess what? Now I want to cry.
Look, my friend, the summer is almost gone.
Something happened to this town and, sadly,
settled here for good. Yesterday I
talked to this prostitute two doors below,
she said the cutest thing
(probably heard on some “you-can-do-it” show):
“Happy is not the mood…
Since the beginning of the pandemic, I have caught myself thinking how happy would I be when all of it is over. When the world gets back to the usual way of things, the way, they used to be before 2020. What a life would that be!
Still, somewhere deep in my mind, I always knew that I was lying to myself. First of all, I wasn’t happy before the pandemic! Secondly, I won’t miraculously become happier just because Covid-19 is not there anymore. None of us will. …
The conductor looks at us with small eyes over the surgical mask.
“I won’t let you in with bicycles,” she says.
We are approximately eight people with bicycles on the platform. The train has six places reserved for bikes, but they are already taken. Everyone is furious. Someone takes photos of the conductor. Others write down her name with threats to talk to her manager. But she is adamant: rules are rules.
I feel angry too. I recall the man from the information desk, who assured us that reservation for bicycles is not needed (it is needed) and that there…
Once viewed as a mere competitor of rational thinking, emotions hold a somewhat unique place in the overall picture of our wellbeing. Still, understanding one’s own emotions can be a daily biggest struggle.
During my PhD studies, I examined research on emotions and aspects, but knowing the theories did not always help me in understanding my own feelings. Why do I feel so bad? Why do I have no desire to do anything? What is this chest pain when somebody hurts me?